This course is an opportunity to get to know your hurt and protective parts while strengthening access to your grounded Self. We learn how each of these experiences connect to your nervous system, and ultimately tell your story with a timeline or other visual mapping.
Owning your story is the bravest thing you will ever do.
—Brené Brown
Understanding who we are in an embodied way is a powerful way to grow our emotional regulation and emotional intelligence. When we know what it feels like in our bodies when we get scared, or mad, or are happy—or when more complicated patterns or parts emerge—then we can more quickly notice these shifts in our autonomic nervous system.
In addition, growing our access to our grounded and calm self with Focusing practice, ensures that we can more easily access that part of us when something does happen. This clarity helps us know when we need to self-soothe or reach out to others for co-regulation.
If one does not have the felt meaning called “understanding the context,” one will only grasp a very limited, superficial part of a symbolization.
—Eugene Gendlin, Experiencing and the Creation of Meaning, page 128
In this course, we use Focusing to explore our autonomic nervous system, getting to know the three main kinds of experiences we can have in our nervous system. We do so using Jan Winhall’s Felt Sense Polyvagal Model™ as a model for the nervous system and Internal Family Systems as the roles the parts play:
grounded (flock, fun, flowing)
hurt (wounding interaction that takes us from flock/fun/flow to fight/flight/fold/fixate/freeze/fawn)
protective (fight/flight, fold, fixate/freeze/fawn)
Using Focusing, we get to know a few parts of ourselves each class and steadily build a new story of our life to date. We notice when parts emerged. How old were we? What happened to spur it to life? How did it help? And does it hurt now?
The class spends the first three weeks connecting to our grounded Self, building a “safe nest” to do the deeper Focusing on our wounded and protector parts in weeks four to seven. As we map our experiences with felt sense body cards, we learn about our nervous system and our history. We finish the class by retelling our stories. Some students do this by creating a timeline and noticing what additional insights emerge for them in being with the timeline. Some participants find it more helpful to tell their story another way: mapping something else, such as their autonomic nervous system, or creating an art project or writing a poem.
Insight involves our ability to shape and tell our story in a way that is both coherent and that maintains emotional contact with its meaning. We are neither overwhelmed by, nor disconnected from, what happened to us, and we have a developing sense of meaning about our pathway through life. Only through integration of the limbic-based memory with the capacities of the middle prefrontal region in both hemispheres does this capacity emerge.
—Bonnie Badenoch, 2008
To further your practice, it is encouraged to also form a Focusing partnership with another participant. This involves meeting between classes to practice, in an exchange of Focusing and listening.
Timing and other details
Dates:
Thursdays, May 1-June 26, 2025, break week May 29
Time: 10 am - 12 pm Eastern (New York Time) - see your local timeTBD - email Annette at annette@pupa.ca if these dates and times don’t work for you to find out about future offerings of this course.
Course size: this course is capped at 24 people—15 spots remaining for the 2024 course
Who is this course for? The course is designed for all levels of Focusers. However, some previous Focusing training is required as you need to be able to access your Felt Sense and hold space (have practice in Focusing partnerships). This beginner training can be learned in Annette’s 4-week or 8-week beginner courses. This course emphasizes getting to know and name in an embodied way the main parts of ourselves.
Course location: Zoom
Sliding scale pricing: This course has sliding scale pricing, offering multiple price points to make the course more accessible and reduce financial barriers for people with different levels of income. Please view the sliding scale fees page for details and codes.
Full fee: US$480
25% off: US$360
50% off: US$240
70% off: US$144
80% off: US$96
90% off: US$48
Notes:
This course is to deepen your Focusing and listening. Breakout room practice and practice in between classes help build those muscles. As such, live attendance is essential. That said, we recognize that sometimes an absence is inevitable. Therefore the classes are recorded and shared with you. This includes the guided exercises, slide teachings, demonstrations and group sharing. Breakout room practice is not recorded.
You can take this class as a stand alone experience, continue on with the whole PUPA journey, or whatever course or courses resonate with you.
Consisting of five courses, the journey covers learning Focusing, learning about who you are (this course), discovering who you want to be and what you want to bring into the world with Thinking At the Edge (TAE, Gendlin’s second practice), transforming a large block using the 8Cs of self-leadership, and finally a course on taking action with embodied leadership.
The journey can be extended to the PUPA Focusing Certification Program, which includes additional requirements to become a Certified Focusing Professional with The International Focusing Institute.