I’ve known for a while that when I was little, one of the reason’s I had such a drive to excel academically was to get love and attention. What I didn’t realize was that this belief—learning being a critical way to get love—was still running the show!

How we listen can greatly affect the interaction we have with the other person we are connecting with. Here are five ways to increase safety while listening which ultimately can allow for more flow in experiences (felt shifts!) or generative conversations.

The inclusion of heart energy or self-compassion during the receiving step adds a new element to the focusing attitude. In order to maximize its benefits, it is helpful to activate this energy at the beginning of a focusing session, so we have it online when we get to the felt sense of an issue.

Three points that gave me clarity on Gendlin Focusing book. Some thoughts to better understand what is a handle, how we get felt shifts, and the importance of the focusing attitude.

How can we shift our habits? One way is to tap into the possibility of another way with Focusing. We then need to practice the new habit, until it becomes praxis (at least most of the time).

In this blog, I cover the parts and qualities of our selves we can map with the felt sense body cards. I’ve found this work to be the best use of the cards. However, they are also quite useful for recording what comes in any Focusing session.

Focusing and meditation are two different practices that complement each other. While they have many similarities, they have a different effect on the body and the mind. For example, in Focusing one experiences a felt shift.

This is the story of how the PUPA process came to be. A pupa is the stage in insects, between the larva and adult. In butterflies, this is the chrysalis. The PUPA process creates a safe space for transformation, by combining Focusing, Theory U and the 8Cs of Self-Leadership.